Over the past 2 years, one of the most important lessons on relationships that I’ve learnt is that it is a lot of work. It requires effort to initiate, maintain and terminate. The sum total of these efforts has resulted in unprofitable relationships for many as they will rather bear the current pain than expend that effort in a new relationship again.Relationships are hard because it’s about two different people. They have different attitudes and experiences but want to present a united front. This results in friction between both parties. And like two surfaces rubbing against each other, this should result in the edges wearing off – both surfaces becoming alike as time goes on. However, there are instances that the friction increases with time and the surfaces continue to remain dissimilar with time. Rather than become more alike, the parties become distant and increasingly abrasive with time. This is the time to break it up. It won’t work!
Consistent fighting is a sign it isn’t working. If you can’t see eye to eye during the dating face, is it when you share the same bed that you would? When it seems like the day isn’t complete without the both of you fighting, then break it up.
Cheating should have no excuse. The easiest way to end a relationship is when one partner knowingly cheats. It is a sign of disrespect and lack of interest in the relationship.
…. To be continued.