A friend of mine is involved with a gal he really likes and was hoping that the relationship could go to the next level, but there is a little problem, he leaves at home, (wait a bite before you nail the guy to the cross) he is the only son of his dad (his mum is late), but his old man has said that he has no plans of livin in the same house when he gets married, but the gal he is involved with now has giving a condition for the relationship to move to the next level, move out of the house and get his own place or no show, meanwhile, the guy has visted the gal in Lagos where she lives and works serveral tymes, the gal is yet to visit the guy, she says she will not come because he lives in his fathers house, the guy is the one that takes care of his daddy and other things in the house, although his old man still moves around a lot, my question is this what is wrong with the guy living in his dads house ? The guy has nt even givin the gal any conditions whatsoever?

I do think its not fear!

The guy is not planning to stay there after marriage. The best she can do is visit him there. Although I am of the opinion that once he starts discussing marriage, he should start packing his bags to show seriousness. He has a responsibility to his dad which I think does not necessarily need his presence to fulfill. The girl's condition is unreasonable to me

I see nothing wrong in the guy living in his father's home. It is his home too. Furthermore, I see nothing wrong if the guy were to continue living there with his bride especially under these circumstances (elderly father, no mother, first born). If I were this guy, I would have cause for concern if the woman I am contemplating to be my life partner demonstrates such inflexibility of spirit as to want me to ignore family obligations. If she cannot respect the father-son relationship, what is to say she will respect the husband-wife relationship down the line? After the initial headiness of love wears off (and it will), you want someone who will be supportive and understand your values, you want someone who will build together with you and not pull you down. Showing such disregard for an elderly parent doesn't seem the best way to start off building family values together.